Okay, I think I’m getting a better sense of what you want here. And if correct, then I (personally) think these are great frontier questions, where the material meets philosophical and religious, and quite beyond what most of us here think of as mere evolution. What is consciousness? Freewill – if it exists, and so forth. I guess some materialists fancy they have reductively explained these things away, but I’m not one of them and I would guess very few other believers here would be either.
I’m not convinced that anybody has come close to laying these issues to rest, though of course I am not any authority in neuroscience or related fields so as to know what is happening with latest findings etc.
Rest assured, I have a lot of questions about these kinds of things, but I’m not holding my breath for anybody to answer them --whether from science or otherwise. If you are advancing this as a sort of ultimatum that evolutionists must meet, then you can relax. You will have set the bar sufficiently high that you will almost certainly never have to accept evolutionary theory such as it is. Many of us here don’t demand that a theory (any theory) explain everything, but are happy when a theory manages to explain a whole lot of data better than any other approach.
That said, be careful not to invite a mis-characterization what people here do claim. Nobody says that particles become people without a lot of intermediate steps any more than metallic ore becomes a jet airplane without quite a process between one and the other. [And I realize you did not say that … but some might see those implications in your wording … hence my anticipation of and answer to that]. Nor are there necessarily clean beginnings for everything. You can read now. You couldn’t as a baby. For both of those propositions to be true, some might be tempted to insist there must have been a first day you could read. Yet even if your memory was perfect there would be no such singularly identifiable day. It may be the same with beings who first became aware of guilt or beauty or engaged in higher thought. Some concepts may lend themselves to these kinds of “Dedekindian cuts” (e.g. when did humans first set foot on the moon), but some of the good questions you raise don’t seem to me to be among those.