Even a little might be too much here, and a new thread self-important. Briefly, I saw Fantasia at age 5 and was KO’d by my first view of dinosaurs, buying the same sticker book that got Simon Conway Morris started, and the same Life articles that got Bob Bakker started, as a book for my 6th Christmas. I still have it.
That led into biology, zoology to scholarship level (distinction) at school, and Medicine at Cambridge (to which evolution was largely irrelevant, but I was still a zoologist at heart so I kept reading).
Meanwhile, I became a Christian at 13, but there was little or no culture war about it in England, so although I coiuldn’t fit Genesis and evolution together it was no problem. That was so even studying Genesis in degree-level theology. Derek Kidner was my neighbour at Cambridge and his work on Genesis, plus many theological and scientific friends, there, informed my thinking.
Most of the real work was post-retirement and finding BioLogos and other sources. It’s hard to recommend individual books, because what struck me immediately was the need to get up to speed on science, theology, philosophy,history (of science, theology and ideas) and start trying to fit them together. A list of my most helpful books is here.
It’s foolish to suggest just one, but for someone like yourself, used to reading “old stuff”, a good historical, and yet surprisingly relevant, perspective on how Christianity and evolution can interact both fruitfully and critically is in the collection of Warfield’s writing on it Warfield, Benjamin B Evolution, Science and Scripture. Mark Noll and David Livingstone are the editors. He trained in science before theology, and was an early, but critical, acceptor of Darwin.
If I have any advice, it’s to learn to spot and ignore the culture war talk that tries to force you into a box. The early scientists applied what they saw as the best orthodox theology to create a theology of nature that was the foundation for modern science. The two could not be separated coherently. Naturally enough, it didn’t include creation, so if we want to have “Evolution + Creation” someone is going to have to repeat the kind of effort that Bacon and Co. made, for a new age, or keep hitting intellectual brick walls.