Continuing the discussion from How can we be one again once this is all over?:
I normally avoid using the word deconstruction when describing my own life, because I don’t feel like I have ever torn down and rebuilt any of my beliefs in some kind of crisis. But I’ve definitely done plenty of slow and methodical evaluating and discarding and reshaping and moving to different places on various continua, and I have definitely felt more tension with my Christian community in the last few years than ever before.
My husband keeps referring to this article he had read, so I finally pulled it up and read it, and I think it has some good observations of how different people are handling their dissatisfaction with their current church situation.
Scot McKnight mentions intellectual problems, hypocrite problems, and social problems as three areas that cause tension for people with their faith community. And then identifies three phases people go through before they “land” again; liminality, elimination, and liberation. I feel like the observations check out with what I’ve observed in many people here.
My husband keeps pointing out that what is interesting is that people can go through these phases and land anywhere from pretty close to miles away from where they started. Some people “deconstruct” and end up at the Evangelical church down the street, some in a very different denomination, maybe mainline instead of Evangelical, some in Catholicism or the Orthodox church, some de-church completely but still see themselves as “Christ-followers,” some move completely away from Christianity and are just “spiritual,” and some drop all religious/theistic belief and practices all together. Some transfer their fundamentalist energy to atheism and still see everything in black and white, they just change who they are all judgey towards.
We wonder what makes the process churn out such different results. Is it your personality, the degree of church hurt you’ve experienced, something about how you go about the whole deconstruction thing, the community response you get and who accepts you in the process? We’ll probably never know, but it’s interesting to think about.
(Tagging you, Aaron, since I’m talking about you, in case you feel like making one of your annual or so appearances round these parts. @XabuChicago )