The Bible talks a lot about fellowship. The gospel is spread through fellowshipping. You don’t read of a lone Wolf Christian in the Bible and instead you read of communities that seemed to break bread together often, met at each other’s houses, and helped support each other to the point it seems they were possibly selling off extra houses or downsizing. It’s easy to get along with a group when you all share lots of the same views or when the congregation is a series of clicks instead of a family. How do you let the differences go when they are important to you and a major part of your life but still remain authentic of who you are? For me it often feels fake and dishonest when others are talking about something like YEC and mentioning tons of things I believe can easily be refuted. A pastor once told me there is a big difference between being right and being righteous and I struggle with it. When I hear people talking about something like dinosaurs and humans living together I just want to correct them. Often I don’t and then I feel like it my silence is contributing to their further belief. Or I’ll mention it a few times, and I know they will know , but they will simply carry on about it while we are hanging out and I know if I disagree even 50% of the time it will be divisive. So I begin to feel fake through silence or pretending like what they said carries some weight and down the road I just feel like a wall is basically there.
I’m using myself as a example but it’s not personal. Just wanting to line out what my question concerns on how do you build real relationships with a congregation where you maintain it in a big way through silence but that silence makes it feel fake and means the connection on your end just feel less than what it use to. That as time goes instead of bonds getting deeper that actually feel weaker.