I obviously resonate with this concern too, given things I’ve already written in other threads. Indeed, with regard to what is now taken to be a traditional concept of hell, it isn’t even that this “good” god allows suffering, but even presides over it in such a spirit of infinite vengeance as to make even the worst human parents more righteous by comparison.
And I suggest that this is a good thing [that you haven’t found any sect to explain this].
If you had, then perhaps the proper response is to run away from that sect as far as possible. The answer to it won’t be finding (or creating) some new sect, but to delve into the gospels (from whatever sect or system you already hale from), and to come to the feet of Christ who is our final and most authoritative revelation of God’s character, to learn of that Character straight from Him. I think you and I have a lot of agreement on that, Shawn. Where I continue to part ways with you is that you seem to want to insert a lot of “other stuff” like new and strange theological systems and apocryphal ideas which are likely unnecessary distractions at best and unscriptural falsehoods at worst. The answer to sects with their old contrived, elaborate theological systems is not to create yet another new one, but to let redemption shine out into the cobwebs of every already existing farthest corner.