Life and relationships are full of choices and those I take seriously. But broad comprehensive decisions in which present I impose on future I, no, I’m not interested in that. I just think it is important to keep in mind not everything is at the level of choice or if it were, I’d have to decline it.
Right. In existentialism it is not about judgement of person or choices. From the existentialist perspective all the angst and weight of our choices is because there is no guidebook. The standards and rules of religion and society are just another choice we are faced with and if we let things like this make our decisions for us then we have cowered under the pressure and sold out.
Of course I don’t think this precludes Christianity because that can be our choice as much as anything else. But if so, then it is because we have well considered all the alternatives. When everything is our own choices then we can back up those choices with the reasons we have made them and we are never going to say "because parents, law, society, or scripture says so.