We are not talking about subservience, but subordination. The subservience that Jesus spoke about is choosing to put another’s needs before your own, and even there Jesus put limits on how far He would go. Jesus did NOT bow down to Pilate and the Jewish leaders and say, Yes, Sir, Master. Anything you say, Master! He stood up to them, even though He understood He had to go through with the Crucifixion for their good and the well being the whole world, including you and me.
In John Jesus made the point that He was One with the Father, which means that He was not subordinate to the Father. He might defer to the Father at times, but He did so because He choose to, not because he had to, which would be the case if He were subordinate.
Those who argue that women must be subordinate to men say that women it is wrong for a woman to have any authority over a man in the church or in society. This seems to me to be the origin of the old double standard.
Paul did tell husbands and wives to serve one another, but often husbands insisted that their wives serve them without them serving their wives.