Making more deliberate progress with my VSI to Kierkegaard has been good but challenging in ways that have nothing to do with technical aspects of reading. Even the secondary material is convicting:
As Kierkegaard expressed it elsewhere, in such a view the self is ‘a dative1, like the “me” of a child its concepts are: good luck, bad luck, fate’ (Sickness unto Death 51). Hence it is the mark of the aesthetic individual that he does not seek to impose a coherent pattern on his life, having its source in some unitary notion of himself and of what he should be, but rather allows ‘what happens’ to act upon him and to govern his behaviour.
Gardiner, Patrick. Kierkegaard: A Very Short Introduction: 58 (Very Short Introductions) (p. 49). OUP Oxford. Kindle Edition.
In crucial respects the account provided of the ethical point of view appears to focus uncompromisingly upon the individual. Personality is the ‘absolute’, is ‘its own end and purpose’; in describing the emergence and development of the ethical character, the judge treats as basic the notion of ‘choosing oneself’, this in turn being closely associated with the ideas of self-knowledge, self-acceptance, self-realization. The ethical subject is portrayed as one who regards himself as a ‘goal’, a ‘task set’. Unlike the aestheticist, who is continually preoccupied with externals, his attention is directed towards his own nature, his substantial reality as a human being with such and such talents, inclinations, and passions, this being something which it constantly lies within his power to order, control, and cultivate. There is thus a sense in which he can be said, consciously and deliberately, to take responsibility for himself; he does not, as the aestheticist is prone to do, treat his personal traits and dispositions as an unalterable fact of nature to which he must tamely submit, but regards them rather as a challenge – his self-knowledge is not ‘a mere contemplation’ but a ‘reflection upon himself which itself is an action’ (Either/Or ii 263). Moreover, by such inward understanding and critical self-exploration a man comes to recognize, not only what he empirically is, but what he truly aspires to become; thus the judge refers to an ‘ideal self’ which is the ‘picture in likeness to which he has to form himself’. In other words, the ethical individual’s life and behaviour must be thought of as infused and directed by a determinate conception of himself which is securely founded upon a realistic grasp of his own potentialities and which is immune to the vicissitudes of accident and fortune. He is not, as the aestheticist was shown to be, the prey of what happens or befalls, for he has not surrendered himself to the arbitrary governance of outside circumstances and incalculable contingencies.
Gardiner, Patrick. Kierkegaard: A Very Short Introduction: 58 (Very Short Introductions) (pp. 52-53). OUP Oxford. Kindle Edition.
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1[T]he dative case…used in some languages to indicate the recipient or beneficiary of an action, as in “Maria Jacobo potum dedit”, Latin for “Maria gave Jacob a drink”. In this example, the dative marks what would be considered the indirect object of a verb in English.
From: Dative case - Wikipedia