It is not self-absorbed of a child to know that it is beloved of its father, nor is it selfish of a child to understand what its father has truthfully told them (he should tell them otherwise?). Imagine an artist’s favorite work or their favorite medium – they can’t have one? (I have a little experience – my sculpture prof in university asked me if I might change my major to art – I still want to be a sculptor when I grow up. ; - )
It would be better for us all if you did. 