Personally, (considering that Jesus as the best revelation of God’s heart and character that we have), I don’t think God can be “offended” but I think he can certainly be saddened. (Think of the image of the father in the parable of the prodigal son and of Jesus weeping over Jerusalem). And yes, consequences are experienced by people at a personal level—consequences certainly come to disobedient children-- but I don’t see these as coercive acts on the part of God, but as warnings of the natural consequences of estrangement from love and life, for which God is the only ultimate source.