And I think these only become troubling in a legalistic system as well as one that thinks of heaven and hell as reward and punishment.
It is correct to say that children are ignorant but it is not correct to say they are not innocent. For if they are not innocent then what are they guilty of? By your own words they are not guilty of anything except what they have done. So they certainly start out as innocent, right? Then in accord with the process of learning they try things out – for many it is whatever wacky ideas pop into their head. Then learning what works leads to the formation of habits – both good and bad, and that is when sin becomes part of the equation. Age has nothing to do with it except that with time habits become stronger and harder to change.
Not holding children accountable for their actions is the surest way of teaching them not to learn from their mistakes. I would remind you of Jesus telling us to become as a little child to suggest that the difference is not a matter of accountability but of nature and character. It is simply that children generally have the nature and character required for heaven, because they are in the process of learning rather than locked into a set of ingrained habits. So I do not think it is matter of some legalistic loophole where children are not held accountable but simply a matter of whether or not people have lost a childlike faith in life and goodness, and instead “stained by the world” follow habits such as looking out for number one and taking advantage whenever possible to become the winners no matter what.
It is not a question of how old someone is but whether they are willing to learn and change. Children as young as 4 have done horrific things but you generally don’t find serial killers younger than 14. It takes time for such behaviors to become habitual. But I am not betting on a free pass for anyone based on age, because I just don’t think it works that way.
It is monstrous no matter what the age, whether children or adult. So I don’t believe God sentences anyone to hell. I believe it is something that people do to themselves. And frankly that is something you can see people doing to themselves all the time with their own self-destructive habits.
So if a person never learns right from wrong, and never develops a conscience, then they are not accountable? (didn’t you say they don’t start with any innate knowledge of right and wrong?) Anyway, we don’t accept ignorance as an excuse because learning what is acceptable is one of our own responsibilities.
All children are not the same. Some learn to plan things out quite young and other remain prisoners of the moment most of their lives.
Physical death is not a consequence of the fall. Others are consequences of what they did – either bad habits themselves or measures to overcome bad habits and give humanity some hope for the future. For example, the only way to overcome this bad habit of blaming God for our mistakes was to make us live by our own efforts.
But what is it that can possibly create such a separation between parent (God) and child? There is only one thing. It is only when the presence of the parent in the child’s life does more harm than good.