Al,
It is hopeless that we ever agree because of the way we look at the Bible. I fully agree with the missionaries who taught your friend that he cannot obtain salvation except through Jesus. In fact, I am one of those missionaries and I live and preach that gospel to Japanese people - who are very good on the surface, but still lost without Jesus. That is the clear teaching of the Bible. Salvation in Jesus only explains why Jesus told us to go into all the world and preach the gospel - otherwise, why would there be a need to spend time, money, and even suffer persecution to do something that is not necessary?
It explains why Jesus had to die - if there had been another way to be saved, the cross becomes unnecessary. There is no other sacrifice which God can accept as payment for our sin.
There is no reason to share your faith with anyone if one can be saved simply by good works, but the Bible says that “by the works of the Law shall no man be justified.”
Al, how good do you have to be to get into heaven? Are you good enough? How do you know? Do you have to worry about that every day? John tells us that he wrote the Book of First John so that we can KNOW that we have eternal life. We have eternal life IF we have believed on the Son and have the Son. And if we do not have the Son of God, we do not have life. I John 5:11-13. And like I mentioned before, there is no other name given among men whereby we are saved. Salvation in no other. Only Jesus offered an acceptable sacrifice to God for our sins - His own perfect sinless body.
So, Al, as it stands now, it seems to me that you are trusting in your own good works to get into heaven. You need to trust Jesus to save you and not depend on your own good works.
I’m lazy, so I copied this from a random church website, but it briefly explains why good works can save no one.
Can I simply be saved by being a good person?
If God is going to save a person because he has lived a morally good life, then the plan of salvation is no longer valid and there is therefore no more need for God’s grace. If this idea is true, then our salvation is based on works, not grace. This way of thinking demands that God will look at our life and base His decision of our salvation on whether we have been more good than bad. Why then did Jesus die on the cross? Man could have been saved without Jesus simply by being a good person. The problem is that no matter how good we may be, we have all still sinned (Romans 3:23), nor can our good life be equivalent to righteousness (Romans 3:10). [Also, in Isaiah 64:6, we learn that all our good works are as filthy rags in God's eyes. God is not impressed because good works or not, we are still separated from God by our sin.]
We must put on righteousness[become righteous] in order to be found right in God’s eyes. And this demands that our sins be forgiven. Forgiveness is not based on living a morally good life, but rather on living by faith that the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sin. [Good works are the result of saving faith and show that our faith is genuine, but good works if not accompanied by faith in Jesus cannot cleanse our sin.].
In the bible, we have an example of a good person named Cornelius. Acts 10:2 tells us that he was “a devout man and one who feared God with all his household, who gave alms generously to the people, and prayed to God always.” But we learn that he was not saved by all of that. In Acts 10:5-6, he is told by God to go get a man named Simon and that Simon would tell him what he must do. In Acts 11:14, we understand that what Simon was to tell him were the “words by which you and all your household will be saved.”
Before, Cornelius was a very good person, but he was still a lost person. After he heard the words that Simon brought to him in order to be saved, he and his household were all baptized for the forgiveness of their sins, according to Acts 10:48.
In closing Albert, even though I doubt it will do much good, here just some of the verses that show us that salvation does not come from being good, from self-effort, or from doing good works:
Galatians 2:21 “I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness comes through the Law, then Christ died needlessly.”
Romans 3:20-25 21 For by works of the law no human being will be justified in his sight, since through the law comes knowledge of sin. But now the righteousness of God has been manifested apart from the law, although the Law and the Prophets bear witness to it— 22 the RIGHTEOUSNESS OF GOD - THROUGH FAITH IN JESUS CHRIST - FOR ALL WHO BELIEVE. For there is no distinction: 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified by his GRACE as a GIFT, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, 27-28 Then what becomes of our boasting? It is excluded. By what kind of law? By a law of works? No, but by the law of faith. 28 For we hold that one is justified by faith apart from works of the law.
Romans 11:6 But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works, otherwise grace is no longer grace.
Romans 4:1-7 What then shall we say that Abraham, our forefather according to the flesh, has found? For if Abraham was justified by works, he has something to boast about, but not before God. For what does the Scripture say? “ABRAHAM BELIEVED GOD, AND IT WAS CREDITED TO HIM AS RIGHTEOUSNESS.”
Galatians 2:16 “nevertheless knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the Law but through faith in Christ Jesus, even we have believed in Christ Jesus, so that we may be justified by faith in Christ and not by the works of the Law; since by the works of the Law no flesh will be justified.
2 Timothy 1:9 “who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, NOT ACCORDING TO OUR WORKS, but according to His own purpose and grace which was granted us in Christ Jesus from all eternity, “
Matthew 5:20 "For I say to you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.
Al, I hope you will think seriously about these verses. Your eternity depends on it.
It is for all these reasons that I can confidently say that your experience and the message you saw was not from God. In light of all these verses and many others, how could He have made it any clearer?