Thus I also come full circle back to my first response in tis thread… We “compatibilist” Calvinists essentially hold a “both-and” position on humans making free, responsible choices and God’s free will. Perhaps the closest analogous doctrine is how Christians have traditionally understood the incarnation… i.e., what theologians call the “hypostatic union“, two natures in one person: Christ was 100% God, simultaneously 100% man. there was no “zero sum” game, wherein if he were 40% God he could be, at most, 60% man. the traditional formulation affirmed he was both entitely man and entirely God, “without confusion, without change, without division, and without separation”… i.e., both-and; no “zero sum” or “mutually exclusive” issues involved. Thus we do not believe the two natures are mutually exclusive; odd and mysterious, and downright incomprehensible as it may at first appear to our minds.
I emphasized to @Mervin_Bitikofer earlier that historic Calvinism embraces both predestination and free will because I do think it far too common a misconception. People do think (or assume?) predestination and free to be mutually exclusive, and thus seem to assume that if we Calvinists affirm belief in predestination, we must therefore be denying real free choice.
Similarly, i cannot count how many times, in friendly debates or discussions, some have tried to refute my Calvinistic beliefs by pointing to some Scripture that clearly affirms free, individual choice. (e.g., “choose for this day whom you shall serve,” How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!”, “you always resist the Holy Spirit. As your fathers did, so do you.”, etc.) Similarly, just google a list of prooftexts for Arminianism… you will see many (most? all?) of them list verses that affirm free will… again, as if that in any way served as a refutation against a position that affirmed both free will and predestination.
it is instructive that people think that these verses would in any way refute Calvinism, a system that affirms the free choices of men. it would be like trying to refute the aforementioned hypostatic union by pointing to scriptures that affirm Christ’s human nature, as if that would in any way serve as a refutation to a position that held to both his divine and human nature.
the real question, then, is whether Scripture presents predestination and free will as compatible or coexisting, or whether Scripture presents them as mutually exclusive. I know that many people believe or assume them to be mutually exclusive, but does Scripture share that perspective. That, I propose, is the real question at hand. And I personally find the answer to that question rather obvious.