I have found this a wonderful discussion. It is a joy to interact with Christians who have the courage to grapple with evolution and its implications for our faith and ethics. Thanks again to everyone.
Studying the comments, I find many issues at play, but a key problem seems to be the tension between self-interest/self-care on the one hand, and altruism (love) and sacrificial altruism (agape love) on the other.
As Albert and Larry note, in social species, non-self-interested or altruistic behavior occurs. In humans, this is common and even involves self-sacrifice, as Larry mentions. Humans cooperate in remarkable ways and on scales not seen in other species. We are the social species. The existence of cooperation and altruistic behavior was a huge problem for evolutionary biologists since it seemed to contradict the theoretical necessity of self-interest. This generated intense research with a series of sub-theories emerging from the 1960s to the 1990s. These included the sub-theories of inclusive fitness, reciprocal altruism, and indirect reciprocity. As a result, evolutionary scientists seem, arguably, to have almost solved the problem. As Stephen notes, it is inaccurate to characterize the Darwinian view as a lawless war of all against all. Larry is correct: it is complex and there are laws. But what is relevant to this discussion is that cooperation and altruism are social in origin and function. They are intra-species and intra-group. I help other humans, normally only humans within my group. In-group preference (tribalism) appear to be evolved traits that can be good in promoting deeper more intimate within-group community but bad in promoting out-group hostility (warfare, as Larry mentions, or nativism as we are seeing in our own country at present).
Humans and pre-humans are believed to have evolved in small, relatively stable, long-term social groups (perhaps 75-150 individuals). Sociality is deeply embedded in our evolutionary history and biology. In fact, there is neuropsychological evidence that our brains are “designed” to operate within groups around this size. This gives one pause to wonder about the optimum church size and about the impact of modern mass culture and society on our mental and spiritual health.
So evolutionary science confirms that we are profoundly social beings. We expend a great deal of time, effort, and brain power attending to social life: social status, power relationships, reciprocity, kinships, friendships, hierarchies, male/female relations, in-group/out-group relations, and so on. The fact is we need deep community with other people in order to be what we are evolved to be, or, to be what God intended us to be. Social community is the “normal” environment in which humans are “designed” to live. And God has provided for this need in establishing the church – the local community of believers. Jesus and the New Testament make it clear that the church is our vital society – the social “in-group” of Jesus Christ – deeply cooperative and altruistic, yet open to outsiders. Sadly, American culture is extremely individualistic, and this has badly undermined the American church and distorted Christian spirituality.
So, as Larry and “Beaglelady” note, in humans, self-interest is deeply intertwined with social life, and indeed, it may often be in my self-interest to act altruistically within social contexts. In fact, in some contexts, I may even feel myself naturally disposed to act altruistically, rather than self-interestly. Nonetheless, the tension between self-interest and social obligation is something we are all familiar with. Perhaps knowledge of the biological origins of this tension might help us deal with it more effectively within supportive church communities.
I hope this contributes to the discussion, and I look forward to further comments from everyone.