And that is your problem.
You prefer to accept the writings of humans over the perfection and universality of God. You would condemn 75%+ of humanity over a book. I do not care how sacred that book is but if it paints the picture of God you paint it is wrong!
And as I hold Scripture as sacred myself, the only conclusion I can make is that you are reading and understanding it wrong.You are more concerned with details and individual verses than the message and whole understanding of God in it. Just as the Trintiy is not expressed in obvious terms, so is the underlying nature of God.
You have turned God into a vicious, selfish, and vane being who wants to be worshpped and wiill punish anyone who does not conform, not here, and now, no, that would be to lenient. For eternity!
Like @mitchellmckain I want nothing to do with that version of God
Richard